3 Awesome Attitude Adjusters

Attitude is not inborn but developed and nurtured. I have seen people who spent most of their energies developing and maintaining abhorrent attitudes for self-defeating and self-destructive behaviours.

I’ve also witnessed amazingly uplifting, world-class positive and upbeat people who nurture successful lives and lifestyles with their positivity and perpetual passion for life.

Here are 3 awesome attitude adjusters to help you achieve more by supporting your actions with mental fuel your success can feed upon.

Attitude Adjuster #1: Remember Peter Pan…remember your `Happy Thought`. Peter Pan could fly and teach children to fly by having them remember their happy thought. The one thing that makes their hearts sing and their spirits soar. This actually works.

Modern science has shown that thinking of negative experiences puts harmful chemicals into your system. Thinking of your favourite experiences fills your body with endorphins and other positive `juices` that alter your health, stamina and state of mind. Want a better attitude? Think of the best moments of your life and relive them mentally.

Attitude Adjuster #2:  Take a break. Not just any break. Some people take a break from their desk to get coffee and lament with co-workers about how much they have to do. NO! Take a real break. Step out of the office and walk briskly around the block. Physical action will get you out of your `stuck at your desk` syndrome and takes the same time with 10 times the refreshing effect.

Doing physical labour? Take a nap. Studies show a 20 minute nap can have the same effect on the body as a night`s sleep. Take a break from your usual `breaks` for a breakthrough attitude.

Attitude Adjuster #3: Pray. Spending a few moments communing with God can do wonders to alleviate anger, resentment, boredom, hopelessness, angst and frustration. Give all the negative emotions to the Lord and ask HIM to deal with them.

When ever I try to do it all myself, my attitude sours and I end up feeling like Iâm doing more than my fair share. Turning inward is the worst thing to do. Asking the Almighty to take over my pains in life frees me from them and allows me the mental space to say, `Thank you God.`That spirit of `thanksgiving` is sometimes just what I needed to adjust my overall attitude.

These are only 3 very simple tips yet they have power beyond measure if applied the right way and at the right time. Have comments or questions? Just leave your comments here.

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Courage, as I learned in 33 years practicing martial arts, is not having the guts to fight someone twice your size. That is relatively easy. Courage is to do the RIGHT thing, even when you do not want to do it; yet you still do it, because it is the right thing to do. It takes far more courage to walk away from a fight when you are angry. It takes even greater courage to show mercy and forgiveness. I think one of the greatest forms of courage comes when you admit you are wrong and ask for forgiveness.

Here are 3 ways to develop your courage:

1) List all the fights you got into in the past year. Not physical fights (hopefully). The argument with a friend or family member, boss or colleague. Who on that list deserves an apology? Give it to them TODAY. Who on the list doesn’t deserve an apology? Extend an olive branch. Doing these things takes courage and the best way to build a strength is by exercising that which needs developing

2) Face up to a fear. Been afraid of the boss, a colleague a relative? Write down some notes of what you want to discuss with the boss and go face her or him. It may help to open with , “It may only be me…” or “May I have a heart-to-heart talk with you?” It takes guts to face your fears. The next fear is usually a lot easier.

3) Act. Have you been putting something off? A big project? A book you want to write? Changing careers? Going after a big account? ACT on it today. Now. Right now! Amazing how you can develop courage through action. 

The most successful people I ever met had the courage to do what few others would ever dream of doing. Start working on your courage today.

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PUNCTUATION IS EVERYTHING…. 

An English professor wrote the words,  -Woman without her man is nothing- on the blackboard and directed his students to punctuate it correctly.

The men wrote:  ”Woman, without her man, is nothing.” 

The women wrote:  ”Woman!  Without her, man is nothing.”

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Most people in life never reach their goals. The number one issue holding people back is fear. Fear of failure. Fear of success. Fear of being inadequate. Fear of not being liked or loved. Fear of embarrassment or losing face. Fear of being alone. Fear of… the list is endless.

As most of what we fear NEVER comes true (except death and THAT usually much later in life), all that fear is wasted energy. That wasted energy could have been used for growth, learning, strength building and success. Our point today is, face up to your fears and they will almost always go away. Here are 8 ways to face up to your fears, ALL of which get easier they more often you practice them and ACT ON your fear:

1. Fear of public speaking? Join Toastmasters International, learning to speak. ACT ON it!

2.  Fear of your boss? Ask 3 mentors for advice and set an appointment with your boss for an open discussion. Express both your fear and what you want to do to improve the situation. Then PROVE you are a great worker. ACT ON it!

3. Fear of heights? Take up rock climbing with professionals. You start on the ground and gradually work your way up. ACT ON it!

4.  Fear of taking a promotion? Pray on it. Ask 3 mentors for advice. Talk it over with your spouse or parents. If it is a good career move, embrace it. Block out the extra hours for work and for learning the job to make the promotion a huge success. ACT ON it!

5. Fear of commitment in a relationship? Pray on it and seek in your heart if it is true love. If you know it is love, talk to 3 happily married couples and get their input to help in your decision. ACT ON it!

6.  Fear of death? Read about and talk to people with near death experiences as most lost all fear of death. As a Christian, I am looking forward to my eternal reward which removed my fear. ACT ON it!

7.  Fear of contacting a prospect to sell something? My dad taught me, your prospects puts on their pants the same way you do… one leg at a time. They are no better, no less than you. ACT ON it!

8.  Fear of success… if I make it, won`t I be expected to do even better the NEXT time? YES! And if you can do it once, you can do it again. Trust yourself and ACT ON it!

Either you control your fears or your fears will control you... FOREVER. Our limits in life are self imposed and reinforced by fears. Remember FEAR is an acronym for False Evidence Appearing Real. God gave us talents and skills and passions to use, not to bury or hide. ACT ON your fears by taking ACTiON.

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Are you working a job, or building a career? Anyone (and most everyone) can work a job. I had my first `job` when I was 14-years-old scrubbing and waxing floors, setting up tables, sweeping and washing windows. I started a sales CAREER at age 20 and have built that career up ever since. Yup, as a speaker, trainer and coach, I am in sales. I not only have to sell my clients on using our services, but also `sell` ideas to audiences all the time.

Here are 3 Sure Fire LAWs to Build Your Career.

1) Learn it. We loose information and facts from our lives at an amazing rate. Better than 90% of the bombardment of information thrown at us is totally lost. Of that 10% we `perceive`, we are lucky to retain 10% in 2 weeks time. Either go for a larger volume of information to `learn` (very low likelihood of success) or be more selective in what you expose yourself to daily. Turn down the `noise` and turn up the good stuff. Mute commercials and talk to your spouse. Read that good book and toss the tabloid. Use your laptop on the bus and stop staring at the bus adverts.

Better yet, study one aspect of your business or industry for one hour every day and in 5 years, you will be the world’s leading expert and then EVERYONE will want you because you are the leading authority in the world.

Learn someone else`s job at work. Learn another product in your product line. Learn about a competitor. Learn how to walk better. Learn how to speak better. Learn it. Learn it. Learn it.

2) Ask it. My dad always encouraged me to ask more questions. My Karate instructor reinforced it. Looking back, I still never asked enough questions. Now, when I am attending a seminar, I ALWAYS and SHAMELESSLY ask a TON of questions.

For your career, ask your boss what you need to advance. Ask the most successful person you know what she or he would do in your place. Ask your family if they want to support you in your next career move (which may require sacrifice on their parts as well) Be like a 4-year-old, `Why?`, `Why?`, `Why?` Ask it.

3) Work it. Apollo 13 quote, `Work the problem.` Work the team. Work yourself. Get up an hour earlier and work it. Get to work 1 hour earlier and get a jump on the day. Take lunch away from your desk but alone with your laptop and work it. Work Saturday mornings to get ahead. Yes rest. Yes play hard. Yes have quality `down time.` But make sure you work it. Notice I did not say `Busy it`. Work it.

Not the sum total of possibilities… just 3 quick LAWs. I’d give you 50, but I’m Working it.

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3 Steps to Pleasing Your Partner

This one may shock some people. It is about pleasing the romantic partner in your life. Sorry, but I cannot help but be holistic in my approach to life and if the home life is great, usually the work life is good as well and vice versa.

Now do not get too excited. It is not about sex. It is about what it takes to please your partner to make your partner happy and more in love with you than ever. If you do not currently have a partner, it gives you a better idea of how to court a future partner and then keep him / her once you connect.

Ask yourself what are the kinds of things that make you happy and satisfied. Chances are some, but certainly not all will please your partner. Unless you married a clone of yourself, your mate is probably a compliment to you, not a mirror image.

FIRST, take a look at your physical relationship. Not because it is the most important but because it is usually the first thing people focus on if there is trouble in the relationship. When I come home from a long day of speaking on my feet and my bride gives me a foot massage, WOW! When she has a tension headache from taking care of kids all day and I massage her shoulders and neck, I know she appreciates it.

Hold hands in public when you walk. For no particular reason when you walk behind your partner, give a soft gentle kiss on the neck. RUN to the door and greet your partner when they come home and give her / him a LONG hug. What we may not FEEL like doing is maybe what we OUGHT to be doing. Want more bliss? GIVE more bliss.

SECOND, listen. This should be number one but rarely makes the top 3 list for men of what they want. Reality for men and especially women, when their mate listens to them, it helps many problems disappear. Listen to his desires. Listen to her needs. Listen to what you two have in common. Listen to your mutual longings. Listen to God in your hearts. Listen without thinking of a comeback or answer. JUST listen.

THIRD, date each other. Notice, I did not say party or spend money together, argue, or go out with 20 friends or candle lit dinners (although the last one might not be bad), I just said to `date each other`. What happens on a date? Usually you talk… a lot. You hold hands. You smile. You compliment. You listen a TON and, yes, you finish with a kiss. (What happens after I will leave to your imaginations.)

Sarnai and I have only been married for about 9 years so this is not a fountain of wisdom from 50 years of marriage as some of you may have experienced. Just three simple things helping my bride and I get ever closer. We believe they can help any relationship.

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