Behaviours and Quick Solutions

April 20, 2010 | By mike In Home and Family,Relationships |

Behaviours and Quick Solutions

My bride and I attended Alan Yip’s Mind Edge ‘Funtastic Parenting Programme #2′ and were blown away. What an amazing course. I told Alan it was like a full year of child psychology in 4.5 hours.

Several BEHAVIOUR KEYS we learned also relate to managing our ‘children’ at work. So whether you are a parent, a manager or a group leader, here are some keys and quick solutions to put into practice NOW.

KEY 1: If someone’s behaviour leaves you annoyed or frustrated, that person is probably seeking attention. Hey… it’s better to get yelled at then ignored.

Solution: Do NOT give special attention to the behaviour. Find better ways to give them attention… catch them doing something right.

KEY 2: If you feel challenged, it’s probably a power struggle.

Solution: Strive to understand them… what they want and need. Then find a way to help them get it.

KEY 3: If you feel hurt by something said or done, their motivator is probably revenge.

Solution: Avoid retaliation! As Jim Rohn taught me years ago, “The best revenge in the world is massive success.” Strive to understand why they felt the need to hurt you or the group and take revenge. Sit down and talk to rebuild the relationship. Rise above he conflict. On the ‘high road’, you’ll never get stuck in the muck.

KEY 4: If you feel like giving up, chances are the child or employee is trying to escape or withdraw (unresponsive, won’t participate, avoids meetings and group activities, nose buried in the TV, computer, book).
Solution: They need baby steps to bring them back into the fold.  Acknowledge any positive efforts made with cards, notes, emails, text messages or possitive comments. If you can’t say something nice to this person or child, better to say nothing at all. Never give up!

For more information on Alan’s awesome programmes, check out his Web site:
http://www.mindedge.com.sg

Smile Maker: The Judge’s Revenge From When He Was a Boy
A traffic violator answering a summons in court for speeding was asked by the judge about his occupation. He said, “I’m a school teacher.”

The judge smiled and said, “I’ve waited for years to get a school teacher in here. Now go to that table and write, ‘I will not speed.’ 500 times!”

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