3 Steps to Pleasing Your Partner
3 Steps to Pleasing Your Partner
This one may shock some people. It is about pleasing the romantic partner in your life. Sorry, but I cannot help but be holistic in my approach to life and if the home life is great, usually the work life is good as well and vice versa.
Now do not get too excited. It is not about sex. It is about what it takes to please your partner to make your partner happy and more in love with you than ever. If you do not currently have a partner, it gives you a better idea of how to court a future partner and then keep him / her once you connect.
Ask yourself what are the kinds of things that make you happy and satisfied. Chances are some, but certainly not all will please your partner. Unless you married a clone of yourself, your mate is probably a compliment to you, not a mirror image.
FIRST, take a look at your physical relationship. Not because it is the most important but because it is usually the first thing people focus on if there is trouble in the relationship. When I come home from a long day of speaking on my feet and my bride gives me a foot massage, WOW! When she has a tension headache from taking care of kids all day and I massage her shoulders and neck, I know she appreciates it.
Hold hands in public when you walk. For no particular reason when you walk behind your partner, give a soft gentle kiss on the neck. RUN to the door and greet your partner when they come home and give her / him a LONG hug. What we may not FEEL like doing is maybe what we OUGHT to be doing. Want more bliss? GIVE more bliss.
SECOND, listen. This should be number one but rarely makes the top 3 list for men of what they want. Reality for men and especially women, when their mate listens to them, it helps many problems disappear. Listen to his desires. Listen to her needs. Listen to what you two have in common. Listen to your mutual longings. Listen to God in your hearts. Listen without thinking of a comeback or answer. JUST listen.
THIRD, date each other. Notice, I did not say party or spend money together, argue, or go out with 20 friends or candle lit dinners (although the last one might not be bad), I just said to `date each other`. What happens on a date? Usually you talk… a lot. You hold hands. You smile. You compliment. You listen a TON and, yes, you finish with a kiss. (What happens after I will leave to your imaginations.)
Sarnai and I have only been married for about 9 years so this is not a fountain of wisdom from 50 years of marriage as some of you may have experienced. Just three simple things helping my bride and I get ever closer. We believe they can help any relationship.
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